Greetings Precious One!
Last week’s attacks on Paris were shocking and tragic. As is the dire situation for our brothers and sisters in Syria. My heart goes out to the families who lost loved ones in the attacks. Also to all the refugees in the world who want basic things we take for granted every day. Like a safe place where their children will not be gunned down.
We made the conscious decision years ago to not watch the news. This was to protect our family’s peace and mental health. The news, as it is reported these days, should come with an MA rating. It is always negative. Always shocking. And usually not an accurate depiction of life on this planet.
News companies sell fear, loathing and outrage. Never joy, harmony or hope. Is it any wonder so many of us suffer from anxiety or depression. We probably all have some form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after seeing what is happening in the world.
Even so, some things do find their way into our consciousness. The important and big things.
Over the years there have been those who are outraged by our choice of not tuning into the news regularly. They consider us irresponsible.
“How do you know what is going on in the world?
What they mean is, if you are not soaking up every morsel of negativity available, then you don’t really care or you have your head in the sand.
It’s not that we don’t care. We care deeply about our planet and the people on it. And I cannot watch the news (murders, violent gangs, rape, environmental degradation, ISIS, a whole country of people trying to find a safe place for their children to live, starvation, drought, suicide, disease) without wanting to lie down and weep my heart out for ever.
I feel like we’re expected to be informed and be happy. There is an oxymoron for you.
I want to be a powerful force for good in the world but I can’t do that when I am crippled by fear and toxic negativity. Therefore as a rule, I choose not to watch the news.
That does not mean I don’t care or don’t know about the suffering of others. In fact it is the opposite. Adding more fear or righteousness to the pot isn’t going to uplift others or solve any problems.
Only choosing love will.
A Course in Miracles says that we only ever have one choice to make. We can choose fear or we can choose love. In every moment.
Sometimes we forget that.
Sometimes I choose fear before I realise I had the choice.
Often it’s really hard to choose love. That’s because we think we are supposed to look at something or someone truly horrifying, violent or depressing and be all saintlike and loving.
No that is not it. Some things are truly horrifying, violent, ugly and depressing like the Syrian civil war. You don’t have to love those things or those perpetrators. But don’t wage war or hatred against them either.
What you can do is find the aspects of people or situations that are uplifting, hopeful, beautiful, and honourable, touching, strengthening, loving, helpful, or inspiring and LOVE those things. Even when there is not that many of them. Even when they are buried in painful, tragic and heart wrenching circumstances.
Find something good and noble to love and appreciate.
When bad stuff is happening in the world (like now), we each have an opportunity to rise up and create the world we would like to live in.
Instead of going down the rabbit hole of fear, pain and hatred, look for the best in people and in the world. And if you can’t find it, be it! And if you can’t be it – imagine it!
This is the only way forward. We’ve tried everything else. And those things don’t seem to be working out so good.
It’s time to be a new kind of radical extremist. A Love Extremist.
Meet people where they are, Do what you can, with what you have, with where you are. The time for hatred is over.
Seek out stories of people helping each other. Like this. And This. This always happens in times of struggle. The human race is basically very nice and good. We all want to live happily ever after. (Even the ones doing hurtful things are doing it because they think, then, they will live happily ever after in their own weird way.)
Take action that empowers and uplifts you. Donate, give your time, write letters, plant trees, hug someone.
Love each other. Stop the spread of hate and fear with you. From this minute. Don’t go on about terrorists or the neighbours. Be extra kind to your kids and shop keepers. Love your husband fiercely. Smile warmly at strangers and give way in traffic. Make something beautiful and leave it on someone’s doorstep.
Hold the vision of a peaceful, creative, co-operative, healthy and fun world where people are kind, celebrate differences and nurture the planet. Act like you are already living in it. Because it is coming.
You are a powerful love generator. Never forget that. The Rebel Army of Love is conscripting and you have been officially called up for service. Tick tock!
Let’s roll up our sleeves and do the next right thing to make this world a better place.